Suffering for Others

Slaves, accept the authority of your masters with all deference, not only those who are kind and gentle but also those who are harsh. For it is to your credit if, being aware of God, you endure pain while suffering unjustly. If you endure when you are beaten for doing wrong, where is the credit in that? But if you endure when you do right and suffer for it, you have God’s approval. For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you should follow in his steps.
‘He committed no sin,
   and no deceit was found in his mouth.’
When he was abused, he did not return abuse; when he suffered, he did not threaten; but he entrusted himself to the one who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the cross, so that, free from sins, we might live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed. For you were going astray like sheep, but now you have returned to the shepherd and guardian of your souls.

I Peter 2 

The idea of suffering has always been a tough one for me to accept. I do not want to suffer. It is as simple as that. But what we are called to is even tougher than that (sadly, I am not sure that I ever really understood this before). We are CALLED to suffer unjustly FOR THE SAKE OF THE ONES WHO CAUSED THE SUFFERING IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I have always focused on the command to endure suffering even if it's unjust, that we bless those who curse us, do good to those who harm us, etc. But it is more than that. We are called to suffered as Christ did ON BEHALF OF THE ONES WHO CAUSE THE SUFFERING. In this passage I think that we are identified by Peter as those who caused the unjust suffering of Christ (He bore OUR sins in his body on the cross), and yet we are the ones who have been healed. Because he did that for us, we have returned to the one who cares for, provides for, and looks after our souls (remember that souls refer to who we are). This isn't just some sort of spiritual legal transaction on God's books. Christ being willing to suffer unjustly, his torture coming as a result of our sins, touched us in a way that caused us to return to God.

We are called to imitate Christ in this way. Suffer on behalf of others, suffer unjustly at their hands, for their benefit. We live in the hope, not that they will "get theirs" but that they will return to God precisely because of our suffering unjustly at their hands. 

Will everyone be touched and respond to our unjust suffering? If people's reaction to Christ is any indication, the answer is no, of course not. But other people's response is not what determines who we are. We are people who love those who do not love us, and that is a hard hard thing for us to do or even understand. The important thing for us to remember is that we have been called to follow him in just this way: a willingness to take on unjust abuse precisely for the sake of those who abuse us.

I saw The Vow a few days ago

I saw The Vow a few days ago with Denise and Kendall. I teased them that I now know what water boarding must feel like - sheer torture. (Ok, I know that is a terrible comment on so many levels).

But I'll admit, I enjoyed the movie. While I do think the movie was at least 30 minutes too long, I really did like the definition of "hero" that you can find in Channing Tatum's character. He is keeping his vow; he loves even when he is being rejected by the one whom he loves. He is a hero. (By the way, the movie is based on a true story).

I think that we need to teach our kids to be heroes. I have been guilty of focusing on rules - "this is what God wants, this is God's will" - without helping my kids see the big picture. God wants heroes. He has designed us to be heroes. The world needs them, and we need to be them.

When you see the kind of movie that has a strong hero or heroine, usually they are someone whose love is brave and sacrificial. At a tremendous cost to themselves, they do the right thing; they love at a price; they don't care what others think of them; they only want to do what is best for the one(s) that they love. They are heroes. And we come away from the movie somehow feeling stronger and better.

Be a hero. Look at what is going on in your life today and decide that you will be the hero. You will love even when you are not appreciated. You will be brave and faithful when others think that you are stupid and out of touch. You will work tirelessly to help others whether or not anyone notices. You will not whine or indulge in self-pity, because heroes don't do this. Instead, you will pursue others' good even when you are rejected and misunderstood. You will do this, not because of any gain for yourself but because this is what love does when love loves. You will do all this, because you are a hero, being made that way by God, in the image of your older brother.

Live the big story: it's what you're made for.

Kids

 An argument arose among them as to which one of them was the greatest. But Jesus, aware of their inner thoughts, took a little child and put it by his side, and said to them, ‘Whoever welcomes this child in my name welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me; for the least among all of you is the greatest.’  Jesus

To welcome a child means to accept a child in love. It means to see the child as a whole, not only what s/he appears to be now - childish behaviors, immature, "goofy," and learning adult games - but who s/he is as a person that will one day go to school, have a job, have children of their own,  talk politics, share Christ with you, and be revealed in glory. When you welcome a child, you welcome her/him as a person of equal dignity and respect.

Thinking about family traditions that we didn't have

You must not eat with it anything leavened. For seven days you shall eat unleavened bread with it—the bread of affliction—because you came out of the land of Egypt in great haste, so that all the days of your life you may remember the day of your departure from the land of Egypt.
                                                                                            Deuteronomy 16: 3


For a long time I had not thought about the reason why the bread for the Passover feast was unleavened. But when I read this passage a couple of days ago, I was reminded that the bread was unleavened because they were in a hurry. They couldn't wait for the bread to rise. I think the lesson is: when God saves you, move! Get out of your oppression - now! Don't wait.

Every year Hebrew families would reenact this event giving parents an opportunity to tell their children about what God had done for them, why they were eating unleavened bread, and how they escaped Egypt with their lives. Jesus saw the meaning of his own death in this event. Looking forward to his resurrection and the time of new creation before he returned as King, he told his disciples to remember their salvation in the celebration of this event.

I know that as Christians we go to church and "take the Lord's Supper" on a weekly basis to remind us what Jesus did for us, the new covenant of forgiveness that we enjoy, and the fact that we are now family in the Body of Christ. It is the celebration of our salvation, our escape from sin, and, most of all, it is the celebration of the love of our Savior, Jesus the Christ. But as good as all that is in church,  I wish I had done something more "in family" - like the Hebrew people. I think that there must have been something particularly faith-strengthening in the family celebration of salvation that teaches children and reminds parents of the truths of their salvation.

What do you think? Do you think that we Americans who are not much for traditions - especially religious family traditions - can start traditions that teach and reinforce faith?

How to face failure, how to face the end

Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end.... And during supper Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going to God, got up from the table, took off his outer robe, and tied a towel around himself. John 13


I love this passage - it mesmerizes me and I am so thankful for it. First, it tells me what I need to be doing until the end: loving the people that God has put into my life.

Second, it tells me how to do it: serve others like a slave, taking no concern for how I might look.

Third, it tells me the key to keeping focus when things get tough: remember that I have come from God, that I have been given "all things" and that I am going to God.

Isn't it amazing that Jesus was able to focus on the fact that he "had everything" when by all appearances, he had nothing? He was shamed and humiliated on the cross, stripped of every possession, and tortured. Looking at him, you would say that he was a complete, pathetic failure with no one beside him other than criminals.

And yet.

He knew that he had everything.

He knew where he had come from.

He knew where he was going.

So he just kept on loving.

And serving.

Dying,

He lived

And lives still.

This is our pattern and our hope.

Praise Him!

Thinking about church, community, our kids and all their families

Aunt Jan's funeral was yesterday. It was sad, moving, and glorious. Lots of crying and laughter, just like most funerals of the saints.

There was a lot of talk about the Rylie church that was the home church for Aunt Jan and Uncle Jack and mom and dad for about 60 years now. It is the church that they helped to found and where I and many of those at the funeral "grew up;" A lot of the talk was about all the good that came out of that small community, often in spite of our religious beliefs. We talked about how Rylie's saving grace was the love shown in the strength of the relationships: people stayed in the same place, were involved in each others lives, and "showed up" at each others' significant events - marriage, funerals, hospital stays, etc. I would also add that, for me, another saving grace was the emphasis at Rylie on God as our ultimate authority and the fact that the Bible was his Word, the revealing of his will. We were taught and believed that God was to be taken seriously - more seriously than anything else; therefore, pay attention to his word. This was a great thing for me, because ultimately, God used these tenets of faith to help deconstruct for me some awfully bad theology that we lived with.

Here's the thing. As great as the gift of Rylie was to us, and as great as it was to have for my entire childhood this small community of people as supports in our lives, it is God who works to produce what we need and he does that through a variety of different family, church and social situations.

I did not give my children the same church, home and school situation that I enjoyed. We did not have the same kind of lifelong friends that my parents had with Jack and Jan, going to church with them week after week, in the same place for 60 years or so. But I think that our kids did receive other spiritual advantages because of their childhood situations. They in turn will not be able to give their kids all the same advantages that they enjoyed, but they will bless their children with different blessings.

Here is the key I think for blessing our children. First, understand that it is through God that all blessings flow. He is the source of all blessings and throughout his long history with his people he has found ways to bless through all kinds of different cultural and social situations. Then, bathe everything that you do in love: love God with all your heart, always seeking to do his will, and love your neighbor as God has loved you. If you do this - and you will make mistakes and you will experience "sin interference"- still, God will bless your children's lives just as you were blessed, your parents before you, and their parents before them.

Praise be to Him!

Musings Along the Road

There's a story of Elisha in a city surrounded by enemy armies who have come looking for him. Elijah's servant is terrified. So Elisha asks God, "O Lord, please open his eyes that he may see." (2 Kings 6: 17). The servant’s eyes are opened, and he sees the hills surrounding the city filled with "horses and chariots of fire." The curtain has been drawn back, the veil between heaven and our dimension has been ripped apart, and for a brief moment an earthling sees Reality as it is.

I love the "walking along the road to Emmaus" story. Two are walking along the road on the Sunday after Jesus' death (husband and wife? two friends? family members?). Then Jesus "comes near" (a fast walker?). But they don't recognize him. They talk about Jesus' death and their own disappointments, grief and surprise at the talk that some had seen Jesus alive. He sets them straight - they haven't understood that all this was "necessary." They all stop and eat, and, Jesus, still the stranger, praying, then breaking the bread to begin their meal. Then, an electrifying moment of recognition - it's Jesus! But just as quickly, he's gone. The curtain has been drawn back, the veil between heaven and our dimension has been ripped apart, and for a brief moment new creation has been fully in view.

I was on the road to Commerce praying and thanking God for the wonders he has given us. I was imagining the creation as it is, raising its branches, shining in light, shouting its praises, bursting into song to the Lord of Glory. And I begin to wonder if the Amish were right after all. 

The Amish do not participate in "modern practices." They drive buggies instead of cars. They dress plainly and live according to rules that seem to rule out most if not all industrial products and practices. Probably because of my religious background, I had always thought they must be the ultimate restoration legalists, trying to live their lives according to first century rules, like the Rechabites of Jeremiah's time who seem to believe that the only true way to live was to live in tents like Abraham had done. 

But what if the Amish have stumbled on to a way of living that recognizes reality: the earth is the Lord's and all that is in it? That one day, the groaning creation will "will obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God?" That right now it would be a good time to take care of the earth by living according to different kinds of goals and values? Maybe producing the most at all costs is not the ultimate value in life? Have they stumbled onto the fulfillment of the first command to take care of creation?

After a demented man entered one of their schoolhouses and massacred their children, the Amish community went to that man's family to grieve with them and offer their forgiveness and compassion. Even our mass media was "in shock and awe." But I am wondering - maybe a people who have not been blinded by compulsive consumerism and its justifications and rationalizations have learned to see more clearly the things that are important, eternal, and real.